Our emotions are feelings that enable us to adapt to environmental expectations, lead us to a behavior. Such as fear, amazement, sadness,joy .. Anger is one of them.
Anger is natural; as long as it does not get out of control and become a destructive feeling, as long as it does not disturb our relations with other people, our business life, and as long as we can control and manage it.
Anger can range from a slight tension to a devastating explosion. When we get angry, some physiological changes occur in our body, just like other emotions; heart rate and blood pressure increase, energy and excitement substances, also called adrenaline and noradrenaline levels in the blood increases.
In fact, anger is a secondary emotion. Generally, feelings and thoughts such as jealousy, loneliness, misunderstanding, disregard, injustice, worthlessness, embarrassment, rejection, sadness, desperation, failure, disfavor, exclusion causes anger.
The anger must be expressed in some way. Otherwise it causes physical health deterioration (headaches, circulatory problems, stomach problems, risk of heart attack, etc.) and emotional problems (anxiety, depression, etc.).
Gaining the ability to express anger correctly is called “anger management. The aim here is to express oneself without violence,self-harm as well as harming the others. There are many methods for anger management. Some of those:
- Cognitive restructuring (changing the way of thinking)
- Developing problem solving skills
- Developing communication skills
- Minor measures like changing the environment.
A life without anger is impossible. In spite of all efforts, some things may justify our anger. Life will be full of frustration, pain, loss and unpredictable actions of other people. We cannot change them, but in some ways we can try to prevent these events from affecting us.