What is Eroticized Transfer?
Sometimes clients use therapy sessions for the expression of a childlike love and the pleasure of being with the therapist who falls in love and force the therapist to respond to their love.
When the therapist does not submit to their expectations, they show their anger clearly. This very special and ”passionate” transference situation, which reaches an excessive desire for satisfaction and adversely affects the therapy processes, is called “eroticized transference..
Erotic obsessions about the therapist that are:
Vivid, intense, irrational, inappropriate, stubborn, chaotic, childish, ambitious, wanting immediate satisfaction and appear to be egosintonic. The client constantly tries to seduce the therapist and tries to flirt with the therapist’s substitutes outside the therapy office.
While the client wants to give and receive sexually charged love to her therapist. They believe that they can unconsciously replace therapist as a parent and is unaware of the repetition of the past.
Sometimes even excessive love and love feelings and obsessions, like a defense mechanism, may also aim to protect the therapist from unconscious aggressive feelings or to prevent the emergence of depressive feelings. The heavy erotization of the transference, which is a severe distortion and reality evaluation disorder, indicates the severity of psychopathology.
This transference, suggesting the existence of a severe psychopathology such as borderline personality organization. It should be distinguished from the erotic transference, which is a positive transference.
This is because the eroticized transference is a negative transference. And it is accompanied by extremely destructive action and hatred impulses. So they are willing to attend sessions. But in reality they have no intention of healing, they just want to be near the therapist.
There are also conscious fears of the therapist not responding to their love and fantasies of being the most beloved. They also believe that their therapists really love themselves through the defense and reflection mechanism. However, this should not be confused with erotomania.