What is Philophobia? What are the symptoms? What is the treatment?
Although people all over the world wants to be loved, some people may fear of it. We call this fear of love (Philophobia)
The origin of this word is ”filo” which means ”love” in Greek.
Everyone thought Queen Elizabeth had fear of love because she witnessed her mother’s murder by her husband King 8th Henry. She died because of her love for her husband. So that’s why divorce can cause similar problem.
This fear is not an emotional barrier; however, they may have physical symptoms and cause them to escape meaningful relationships throughout their lives.
What are the Causes of Philophobia?
Just like other phobias there are different reasons. Negative experiences Religious or cultural beliefs forbids homosexual relationships or any type of emotional connection. That’s why love becomes a taboo for those people. So they have intense fear towards love and they can even find love disturbing.
Rejection is also one of the reasons. Feeling ashamed, or not being allowed to make a bond with someone else is just enough to have a fear for love. Also, if the person has experienced anxiety or depression they may experience low self-esteem.
It is closely related to a previous traumatic experience involving love and relationships. If a person has a past relationship failure, such as divorce, it can cause philophobia. Moreover, witnessing the failure and problems of another’s relationship can cause one to have the same.
In most of the culture and religion, relationship( even though it’s full of love) before marriage is a sin.
What are the Symptoms of Philophobia?
It may shape differently from person to person. Some people may avoid close relationships, having a heart-to-heart talk. However some people can be quite social. but they may become overprotective or jealous because of the fear of losing someone. Most of the people can live normal lives. While people with this phobia feel stuck in this circle. Their situation may keep them away from other people.
Some of the symptoms are:
- Feeling extreme anxiety in relationships
- Feeling under pressure
- Avoiding places where other couples
- Avoiding weddings
- Isolation from social life
- Shortness of breath, sweating, numbness, restlessness, chest pain
If you’re avoiding something in an extreme way, you may have phobia.Although some people can live a normal life some dont.If this phobia affects your daily life negatively, it is time for you to see a doctor.
The therapist prepares a similar scene like a romantic date in front of the person and examines the way a person reacts to it. Eventually, the person can feel less anxious about their fear.
In severe cases, medications may be useful to control distress in a person. Commonly used drugs can control a person’s sad and hopeless feelings. Also we would like to remind you that drug therapy is performed only by the professionals.